This is my "gotcha" day
Dear Mommy and / or Daddy,
I know you’re excited and I am grateful
beyond words that you picked me!
This is a big day for both of us.
If I seem nervous, wiggly, scared, excited, or all over the place, it’s because my whole world just changed again.
I’ve been through a lot, and right now I’m a bit overwhelmed and exhausted.
When you take me home today, everything that felt safe or familiar to me will disappear:
the place I knew,
the smells I trusted,
the people or animals I lived with,
and any routines that helped me feel safe.
Even if I don’t show it…
Please know that I feel it.
You are new to me, and I don’t quite feel safe yet.
What helps me most is when things move slowly, quietly and gently.
This is a lot for me and I want to start off on the right paw by learning to be calm and feel safe with you.
HOW TO HELP MY NEW BEST FRIEND
❤️ PLEASE READ BEFORE TAKING ME HOME - OUR FIRST 3 HOURS
Please take about 10–15 minutes to read this while sitting in the car with your new dog.
Right now, your dog doesn’t need excitement…
they need calm, quiet, and safety.
While you’re reading quietly, you’re giving your dog something they may not have had in a long time—or maybe ever: peace and safety.
This quiet time helps your dog begin to feel safe with you.
The way we interact with our dogs shapes their behavior. Starting calm → creates calm behavior
Starting excited → creates stress behavior
The calmer your dog is now…
the calmer they will be when they get home.
❤️ Starting calm helps reduce their fear and helps your dog feel safe.
Let’s walk through a few more simple ways to help them feel safe.
Start with calm & safety
Before Driving Keep them safe
Before Driving Keep them safe
Before Driving Keep them safe
If your dog gets too excited or nervous, they may panic or try to escape
Before starting the drive, focus on safety and security
• make sure their collar is properly fitted (two fingers snug)
• use a backup leash if possible (collar + harness)
• hold the leash securely at all times or carry them if needed
• use an escape-resistant collar like a Martingale if available
• add a GPS tracker if possible (Apple AirTag, Fi or Tractive collar)
Calm handling helps your dog feel safe and prevents accidents
During the Ride Keep calm
Before Driving Keep them safe
Before Driving Keep them safe
The calmer the ride is—the calmer they will be when you arrive home.
• drive slowly and choose quiet, low-traffic routes
• keep the environment quiet (no loud talking, music, or extra stimulation)
• limit people, kids, or other animals in the car if possible
• let your dog sit where they can see you if possible (avoid the far back cargo area)
• keep windows closed and locked (slightly open is okay)
• pull over if needed to give your dog time to settle
At Home Let them rest
Before Driving Keep them safe
At Home Let them rest
Alternate potty and rest every 3-4 hours.
• potty when you get home: keep them on leash at all times—even in a fenced yard. Let them sniff, but don’t walk them yet.
• take them out each time after they rest.
• create a small, den-like space in a calm area where the family spends time.
• avoid locking them in a kennel if they aren't settling in it. We don't want the kennel to be scary.
• keep the environment small, quiet, and dim. Use hard floor surfaces when possible until potty habits are established.
• close bedroom doors and limit rest of house access for a few days.
• put a small amount of food and water in their resting area
Keep things calm and simple:
• gently guide them to rest if they seem overwhelmed
• stay nearby quietly — they don’t need attention, just calm presence
• consider sleeping near them the first few nights
• avoid visitors, walks or stimulation for a few days
Right now, your dog just needs to:
eat… drink… go potty… and sleep for a few days
The 3-3-3 Guideline
Many rescue dogs have come from highly stressful situations—neglect, abandonment, abuse, puppy mills, shelters, foster homes, hoarding situations, stray dogs or the loss of the only home or people they knew.
Even the happiest dog can feel overwhelmed when everything familiar disappears.
Your precious new rescue is a special dog who needs your patience, your understanding, and your calm leadership.
They need help learning how to feel safe, how to trust. and how to settle into your world without fear, overwhelm, or survival mode taking over.
Rescue dogs are especially prone to behavioral issues—not because they are bad dogs, but because of the stress they have been under and the challenge of transitioning into a completely new home, new people, new routines, and a new world.
Without proper decompression and calming guidance, their stress continues to build.
And when that happens…
bad behaviors show up.
That is why the first:
3 Days
3 Weeks
3 Months
matter so much.
When you bring a rescue dog home, there is a simple guideline called the 3-3-3 Rule.
👉 3 days to decompress
👉 3 weeks to start adjusting
👉 3 months to begin feeling at home
This is not just a timeline.
It is the critical window where your dog will either begin to settle… or continue to struggle.
It is also the same window when many dogs are either kept… or returned.
Many dogs are surrendered back to the shelter within the first 3 months—right when they needed guidance the most.
Dogs do not adjust with time alone.
They adjust based on how they are guided.
If things move too fast, behaviors begin to escalate.
When you guide them the right way from the start, you give them the best chance to settle in and stay.
The Complete 3-3-3 Rescue Dog Roadmap
Great news...
Our rescue works with Jodi Little, a professional dog trainer who specializes in helping rescue dogs successfully transition into their new homes.
Her business is called:
FurEver Home Dog Training
because her mission is helping dogs stay in their FurEver Homes and not be surrendered for preventable behavior issues.
Her motto is:
Training Humans to Speak Dog
Helping you understand your new dog or puppy in a way they naturally understand.
That is why she created:
The Complete 3-3-3 Rescue Dog Roadmap
an extensive step-by-step 20 lesson course designed to help set you and your new dog up for success.
It is powered by her unique method called:
The CALM DOG Connection
The Complete 3-3-3 Rescue Dog Roadmap
The CALM DOG Connection is not about commands.
It is about connecting with your dog, not correcting your dog.
It is about forming an incredible bond with your dog using eye contact, calm energy, subtle words, body language, and positive rewards.
It is about learning to guide your dog in a calm, safe way so they can live with less stress, more balance, and truly thrive.
The Calm DOG Connection is not about taking time out of your day. -- It is about how you interact with your dog throughout your day.
Inside the course,
Jodi helps you learn:
• how to help your dog feel safe and calm
• how to prevent common behavior problems before they grow
• how to read stress signals before behavior escalates
• how to build trust, confidence, and connection
• how to guide your dog with calm leadership instead of correction
• how to create the kind of home where dogs stay for life
She will walk you through this entire transition using the same methods she has used to successfully transition hundreds of rescue foster dogs through her own personal home.
When your new dog feels safe, they can relax.
When they relax, they can trust.
When they trust, behavior changes.
And that is how dogs stay in their FurEver Homes.
👉 If you would like more info
SPECIAL ADOPTION DAY PRICE
The Complete 3-3-3 Rescue Dog Roadmap
The regular price is $247
(about the cost of just one
private training session with Jodi)
But through our rescue,
you’ve been given a special
price today of only $147.
💛 You'll also be 💛 helping more dogs:
With your special rescue link,
Jodi donates 50% of your tuition
directly back to the rescue
to help save more dogs like me.
And her remaining portion helps support
the rescue work she continues to do
for dogs still waiting for their FurEver Homes.
You’ll receive 20 jam packed
step-by-step lessons from
a professional trainer
who specializes in behavior
and rescue dog transitions.
all for only $147
with your rescue discount link.
You can start with just the first lesson for free
DO YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO NEEDS HELP WITH THEIR RESCUE?
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